How to Care for Your Dildo 🍆✨

Your favourite toy deserves a little TLC too. Proper cleaning and storage not only keeps your dildo fresh and hygienic, but can also help it last much longer.

Clean It Before & After Every Use

Always clean your dildo before and after use, even if it has been stored away.

For most non-electronic toys:

1. Rinse with warm water.
2. Wash thoroughly using a mild, unscented soap or a suitable sex-toy cleaner.
3. Rinse away all soap or cleaner residue.
4. Allow the toy to air-dry completely before storing it.

Avoid harsh household cleaners, bleach, alcohol-based products or strongly fragranced soaps unless the manufacturer's instructions specifically state that they are safe for the material.

Know What Your Toy Is Made From

Different materials need slightly different care.

Silicone

High-quality silicone is generally non-porous, easy to clean and very durable.

Wash with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner.

For a solid silicone dildo with no electronic or mechanical components, some manufacturers may also allow boiling for a few minutes for deeper cleaning. Always check the manufacturer's instructions first.

Lubricant tip: Water-based lubricant is the safest all-round option. Silicone lubricant may react with some silicone toys, so check compatibility before using it.

Glass

Body-safe glass toys are non-porous and easy to clean.

Wash with warm water and mild soap or toy cleaner.

Avoid sudden extreme temperature changes, and always inspect the toy for chips or cracks before use.

If damaged, discontinue use.

Stainless Steel

Stainless-steel toys are durable and non-porous.

Wash thoroughly with warm water and mild soap or toy cleaner and dry completely before storing.

TPE, TPR, Jelly & Other Soft Materials

These materials can be more porous than silicone, glass or stainless steel.

Clean carefully with warm water and a suitable toy cleaner, and allow them to dry completely.

Because porous materials may retain bacteria more easily, consider using a condom over the toy—particularly when sharing it or changing between different areas of the body.

Dry Before You Store

Never put your dildo away while it is still damp.

Moisture trapped inside a bag, drawer or container can encourage bacteria, odours and deterioration.

Allow your toy to air-dry completely before storage.

Store Your Toys Separately

Your toy drawer might look more exciting when everything is piled together, but some materials can react when stored touching each other for long periods.

For best results:

• Keep each toy in its own storage pouch or container.
• Store in a cool, dry place.
• Keep away from direct sunlight and excessive heat.
• Avoid leaving toys touching one another during long-term storage.
• Keep toys away from sharp objects that could damage their surface.

Choose the Right Lubricant

When you're unsure, choose a good-quality water-based lubricant.

Water-based lubricants are compatible with most toy materials and are easy to clean.

Oil-based lubricants can damage certain materials and latex condoms, while silicone-based lubricants may not be compatible with some silicone toys.

Always check the instructions supplied with both your toy and lubricant.

Sharing Your Dildo?

Sharing can be fun—but hygiene comes first.

If a toy is being shared between partners, thoroughly clean it between users or place a fresh condom over it for each person.

A new condom should also be used if the toy is moved from anal to vaginal use.

Never move a toy from anal use to vaginal use without thoroughly cleaning it or replacing the condom first.

Check Your Toy Regularly

Before every use, give your dildo a quick inspection.

Look for:

• Cracks
• Tears
• Sticky or degrading surfaces
• Discolouration
• Chips
• Unusual smells
• Changes in texture

If the material has started deteriorating or the toy is damaged, it is safer to replace it.

A Little Care = A Lot More Pleasure 💕

Clean it. Dry it. Store it properly. Use the right lube.

Taking a few minutes to care for your dildo helps keep things clean, comfortable and ready for your next adventure.

Important

Always follow the manufacturer's cleaning and care instructions supplied with your specific product, as materials and construction can differ between toys.

Oh So Naughty Tip:
Your toys look after your pleasure—return the favour and look after your toys. 😉

How to Care for Your Vibrator & Battery-Operated Toys 🔋✨

A little care goes a long way when it comes to keeping your favourite vibrator clean, powerful and ready when you are.

Proper cleaning, charging and storage can help extend the life of your toy while keeping things hygienic and safe.

Clean Before & After Every Use

Always clean your vibrator or battery-operated toy before and after use.

Before washing it, check whether your toy is:

• Waterproof
• Water-resistant
• Splashproof
• Not suitable for water

These are not the same thing.

A fully waterproof toy can generally be rinsed under running water, while splashproof or non-waterproof toys should never be submerged.

For toys that cannot be submerged:

1. Switch the toy off.
2. Use a damp cloth with mild, unscented soap or a suitable sex-toy cleaner.
3. Carefully wipe the surface clean.
4. Avoid getting water into charging ports, battery compartments, buttons or openings.
5. Wipe away any cleaner residue.
6. Allow the toy to dry completely before storing or charging.

Always follow the manufacturer's individual cleaning instructions.

Rechargeable Toys 🔌

Rechargeable toys are convenient, but the battery needs a little TLC too.

Charge It Correctly

Only use the charger or charging cable supplied with the toy, or one specifically recommended by the manufacturer.

Make sure the charging connection and toy are completely dry before charging.

Never charge a wet toy.

Don't Leave It Charging Indefinitely

Once your toy has reached its recommended charge, disconnect it from the charger.

Do not leave rechargeable toys charging for longer than the manufacturer's recommended charging time or continuously overnight unless the manufacturer specifically states that this is safe.

Repeated overcharging or prolonged charging can reduce battery life and may eventually damage the rechargeable battery.

Give It an Occasional Charge

If you haven't used your rechargeable toy for a long period, give it an occasional charge according to the manufacturer's recommendations.

Allowing some rechargeable batteries to remain completely flat for extended periods can affect their ability to hold a charge.

Battery-Operated Toys 🔋

If your vibrator uses replaceable batteries, a few simple habits can prevent unnecessary damage.

Remove Batteries During Long-Term Storage

If you're not going to use the toy for a while, remove the batteries before storing it.

Old batteries can leak or corrode inside the battery compartment, which may permanently damage the toy.

Use Matching Batteries

Always use:

• The correct battery size
• Fresh batteries
• Batteries of the same brand and type where possible

Avoid mixing:

• Old and new batteries
• Different battery brands
• Rechargeable and disposable batteries

Insert the batteries according to the + and – markings inside the compartment.

Keep the Battery Compartment Dry

Before replacing batteries, make sure the battery compartment and your hands are completely dry.

If moisture gets inside, remove the batteries and allow the compartment to dry completely before using the toy again.

Look After the Charging Port

Many modern vibrators use magnetic, pin-style or USB charging connections.

Keep charging points:

• Clean
• Dry
• Free from lubricant
• Free from dust or residue

If lubricant or moisture gets onto the charging connection, wipe it clean and allow it to dry completely before charging.

Never force a charging cable into a port.

Use the Right Lubricant 💦

When you're unsure, a good-quality water-based lubricant is generally the safest choice for most vibrators and toys.

Silicone-based lubricant may react with certain silicone toys, while oils can damage some toy materials and latex condoms.

Always check the manufacturer's instructions for your particular toy.

Never Charge While Using Your Toy

Unless the manufacturer specifically states otherwise, rechargeable toys should not be used while they are charging.

Charge first. Play later. 😉

Let It Dry Completely

After cleaning, allow your vibrator to dry completely before:

• Replacing batteries
• Closing the battery compartment
• Connecting the charger
• Putting the toy into storage

Trapped moisture can damage electronic components and may encourage bacteria or unpleasant odours.

Store It Properly

Store your vibrator somewhere cool, clean and dry, away from direct sunlight and extreme temperatures.

For best results:

• Store toys individually where possible.
• Use a storage pouch or clean container.
• Keep toys away from sharp objects.
• Do not store them while damp.
• Disconnect charging cables before storage.
• Remove replaceable batteries if the toy won't be used for an extended period.

Some soft toy materials can react when stored touching one another, so separate storage is always a good habit.

Check Your Toy Before Every Use

Give your vibrator a quick inspection before using it.

Look for:

• Cracks or tears
• Damaged silicone
• Loose battery covers
• Corrosion
• Battery leakage
• Damaged charging cables
• Exposed wires
• Unusual overheating
• Unusual smells
• Changes in colour or texture

If a rechargeable toy becomes excessively hot, swollen, damaged or behaves unusually while charging, stop using and charging it.

Do not continue using an electronic toy that appears damaged.

Sharing Your Vibrator?

If you're sharing a toy, clean it thoroughly between users or use a fresh condom over the toy for each person.

Always use a fresh condom or thoroughly clean the toy when changing from anal to vaginal use.

A Little Battery Love Goes a Long Way 💕

Clean it. Dry it. Charge it correctly. Store it properly.

Looking after your vibrator not only keeps things hygienic—it can help your favourite toy keep buzzing for much longer.

Oh So Naughty Tip 💗

Your vibrator may love going all night, but its charger doesn't have to.

Follow the recommended charging time and unplug once charged to help protect the battery and extend the life of your toy.

Important

Cleaning methods, waterproof ratings, battery types and charging requirements differ between products.

Always follow the care, cleaning and charging instructions supplied by the manufacturer of your specific toy.

Exploring BDSM Safely: Trust, Consent & Caring for Your Partner

BDSM can be exciting, intimate and deeply connecting when it is built on trust, communication and consent.

Whether you are curious about light bondage, blindfolds and spanking or want to explore more intense forms of power exchange, the most important part of BDSM is not the equipment you use. It is how you take care of each other before, during and after the experience.

At its best, BDSM is not about ignoring boundaries. It is about understanding them clearly.

Start With a Conversation, Not a Toy

Before introducing restraints, paddles, ropes or role-play, talk openly with your partner about what interests you both.

Discuss:

• What you would like to try
• What you definitely do not want to try
• What makes you nervous
• Previous experiences
• Physical limitations or injuries
• Emotional triggers
• How intense you want the experience to be
• What would make you feel safe

Nobody should feel pressured to participate in something because they are afraid of disappointing their partner.

Consent should be enthusiastic, informed and freely given.

And remember: agreeing to one activity does not mean agreeing to everything else.

Establish Your Hard and Soft Limits

A useful BDSM conversation often includes discussing limits.

Hard Limits

These are activities that are completely off the table.

A hard limit should always be respected without negotiation or persuasion.

Soft Limits

These are things someone may be curious about but feels nervous or unsure about.

Soft limits may be explored slowly, but only when both partners genuinely want to.

Never treat someone's limit as a challenge to overcome.

Choose a Safeword

Safewords allow someone to communicate clearly when emotions, role-play or intensity might make normal language confusing.

A simple traffic-light system works well:

Green — Everything is good. Keep going.

Yellow — Slow down, reduce the intensity or check in.

Red — Stop immediately.

If someone says red, the activity stops.

No debate. No teasing. No punishment.

Consent can be withdrawn at any point—even if you agreed to something beforehand.

Remember That Silence Isn't Consent

Some BDSM scenes involve restraints, dominance or role-play where one person deliberately gives up a degree of control.

That makes communication even more important.

Never assume someone is enjoying something simply because they haven't told you to stop.

Check in.

Simple questions such as:

“Are you okay?”

“More or less?”

“What colour are you?”

can keep the experience exciting while still protecting your partner.

Start Slowly

You do not need to recreate an intense BDSM scene the first time you experiment.

Begin with something simple.

For example:

• A blindfold
• Soft wrist restraints
• Light spanking
• Sensation play
• Verbal dominance
• A simple role-play scenario

Learn how you both respond before increasing intensity.

BDSM is not a competition.

There is no prize for being able to tolerate more pain, tighter restraints or more extreme play.

Bondage Requires Extra Care

Restraints can be incredibly exciting, but circulation and nerve safety are important.

If you are using cuffs or restraints:

• Make sure they are not excessively tight.
• Check your partner's hands and feet regularly.
• Watch for numbness, tingling, unusual coldness or colour changes.
• Never leave a restrained person unattended.
• Keep a quick way of releasing the restraint nearby.

Avoid placing restraints directly over vulnerable joints or tightening ropes and cuffs to the point that circulation becomes restricted.

If your partner experiences numbness, severe discomfort or loss of sensation, release the restraint immediately.

Be Extremely Careful Around the Neck

Neck restraints, choking and breath restriction carry serious risks.

Pressure around the neck can affect blood flow, breathing and delicate structures very quickly, and serious injury can occur without obvious warning.

For beginners, avoiding breath-play and neck compression altogether is the safest option.

A collar used for appearance, role-play or symbolic submission does not need to restrict breathing to be exciting.

Impact Play: Know Where You Are Hitting

Spanking, paddles and floggers are common BDSM activities, but placement matters.

Fleshy areas such as the buttocks and upper thighs generally tolerate impact better than areas containing vulnerable organs, joints or bones.

Avoid striking areas such as:

• The head
• Neck
• Spine
• Kidneys
• Abdomen
• Joints

Start gently and increase intensity gradually while communicating with your partner.

Remember that bruising and tenderness may develop later, even if the area looks fine immediately after the scene.

Never Mix Impairment With High-Risk Play

Alcohol and recreational drugs can impair:

• Judgment
• Pain perception
• Communication
• Coordination
• Ability to give or withdraw consent

For activities involving bondage, impact play or other higher-risk BDSM practices, remaining sober helps both partners make safer decisions.

Your Dominant Partner Has a Responsibility Too

Being dominant does not mean having unlimited control.

A responsible dominant partner pays attention.

They watch their partner's breathing, body language, circulation, emotional state and responses.

The submissive partner may surrender control within the agreed scene, but the dominant partner carries a significant responsibility to protect the boundaries that were agreed beforehand.

Power exchange should be given, not taken.

Don't Forget Emotional Safety

BDSM can create intense emotional reactions.

Someone may feel incredibly confident and euphoric during a scene and unexpectedly emotional afterwards.

This does not necessarily mean anything went wrong.

Intense stimulation, adrenaline and vulnerability can sometimes lead to what people in the BDSM community refer to as a drop after a scene.

This is one reason aftercare can be so important.

Aftercare Matters

Aftercare is the time spent reconnecting and caring for one another after BDSM play.

Everyone's version of aftercare is different.

It might include:

• Cuddling
• A blanket
• Water
• A snack
• Gentle conversation
• Reassurance
• A shower together
• Quiet time
• Checking bruises or marks
• Simply lying together

Some people want physical closeness.

Others need space.

Ask your partner what makes them feel safe and cared for.

Check In Again Later

A good BDSM conversation does not end when the scene does.

Check in later that evening or the following day.

Ask:

What did you enjoy?

Was anything uncomfortable?

Would you do it again?

Would you change anything next time?

These conversations help build trust and make future experiences better.

They also give someone space to talk about something they may only have realised afterwards.

Keep Your BDSM Toys Clean

Any toys that come into contact with the body should be cleaned according to the manufacturer's instructions.

Wash or disinfect suitable toys between users and allow everything to dry fully before storing.

Pay particular attention to:

• Restraints
• Insertable toys
• Paddles
• Floggers
• Collars
• Silicone accessories

If a toy cannot be properly cleaned, consider using appropriate barriers or keeping it exclusively for one person.

BDSM Should Feel Safe Enough to Explore

BDSM does not have to mean extreme pain or elaborate equipment.

Sometimes it is simply allowing someone else to take control, putting on a blindfold, being restrained or exploring a fantasy together.

The foundation remains the same:

Communication. Consent. Trust. Respect. Safety.

Explore slowly.

Laugh when things feel awkward.

Talk about what worked.

Stop when something doesn't feel right.

And remember that the goal is not to prove how adventurous you are.

The goal is for everyone involved to walk away feeling respected, cared for and excited to explore again.

Oh So Naughty Tip 💗

Start with curiosity, not pressure.

The sexiest BDSM experiences usually begin long before the restraints come out—with two people being comfortable enough to say:

“I want to try this.”

“I'm not comfortable with that.”

and

“Stop.”

Knowing that all three will be respected is what makes exploration feel truly safe.

How to Explore Squirting: A Pressure-Free Guide to Understanding Your Body

Squirting is one of those topics surrounded by myths, unrealistic expectations and plenty of “Am I doing it wrong?” questions.

The first thing to know is simple:

Not everyone squirts, and you do not need to squirt to have amazing sex or powerful orgasms.

For some women, it happens naturally. For others, it happens occasionally. Some may learn what sensations make it more likely, while others may never experience it at all.

All of those experiences are completely normal.

The goal should be curiosity and pleasure — not performance.

So, What Exactly Is Squirting?

Squirting generally refers to the release of fluid through the urethra during sexual arousal or stimulation.

Research suggests that the fluid can contain varying amounts of diluted urine along with secretions associated with the paraurethral, or Skene's, glands.

That means squirting is not quite as mysterious as social media sometimes makes it seem — and it can look very different from person to person.

Some people release a small amount of fluid.

Others release considerably more.

Neither is more “successful” than the other.

Step One: Take the Pressure Off

Ironically, trying too hard can make squirting more difficult.

If your entire sexual experience becomes:

“Is it happening yet?”

your body may stay tense instead of allowing you to relax into the sensations.

Rather approach it as an experiment.

You are learning:

• What feels good
• How your body responds to arousal
• Which sensations you enjoy
• How your pelvic floor reacts
• Whether squirting is something your body naturally does

There is no test to pass.

Give Yourself Enough Time

Many people find that squirting is more likely when they are already highly aroused.

Rushing straight toward one particular sensation may not work.

Spend time building arousal first through whatever feels good to you.

That could include kissing, touch, external stimulation, massage or simply taking your time without trying to reach a particular goal.

Your body generally responds better when it feels relaxed, comfortable and unhurried.

Empty Your Bladder First

One of the biggest obstacles people experience is the sudden sensation that they need to urinate.

Because the bladder and urethra are involved in the process, sensations associated with squirting can sometimes feel similar to needing to pee.

Going to the bathroom before you begin may help you feel more comfortable about relaxing when this sensation occurs.

It can also make the experience feel less mentally distracting.

Learn to Relax Your Pelvic Floor

Many women instinctively tense their pelvic-floor muscles when they get close to orgasm.

Squirting may sometimes require the opposite: being able to relax rather than constantly clench.

Pay attention to your breathing.

Take slow breaths and notice whether you are tightening your:

• Stomach
• Buttocks
• Thighs
• Pelvic-floor muscles

Try allowing those areas to soften.

Pelvic-floor awareness can be incredibly useful — not only for sexual pleasure, but for understanding how your body responds during intimacy.

Explore the Front Vaginal Wall

The area commonly referred to as the G-spot is usually described as a sensitive region along the front wall of the vagina rather than one tiny button that everyone has in exactly the same place.

Some people find stimulation in this area pleasurable and associate it with squirting.

Others do not.

Experiment with different types of comfortable stimulation and pay attention to what your body responds to.

There should never be a need for excessive force or aggressive pressure.

More pressure does not automatically mean more pleasure.

If something hurts, stop.

Combine Different Types of Stimulation

Some women find that they respond more strongly when internal stimulation is combined with external clitoral stimulation.

Others strongly prefer one or the other.

There is no universal formula.

This is why discovering your own preferences matters far more than copying something you have seen online.

Take your time and notice which combinations build the most pleasurable sensations for you.

Don't Panic at the “I Need to Pee” Feeling

For some people, the build-up toward squirting creates a strong sensation that feels like needing to urinate.

Because of that, many women automatically tighten their muscles and stop.

If you have emptied your bladder beforehand and everything feels comfortable, you can experiment with relaxing through that sensation instead of immediately resisting it.

But there is an important rule:

Never force yourself through discomfort.

If the sensation feels painful, frightening or simply unpleasant, stop and reset.

Make the Environment Stress-Free

Worrying about your sheets is a surprisingly effective way of distracting yourself from pleasure.

Put down:

• A towel
• A waterproof throw
• A washable blanket

Then forget about the mess.

Giving yourself permission to explore without thinking about laundry can make it much easier to relax.

Squirting and Orgasm Are Not the Same Thing

This is worth repeating.

You can:

• Squirt without having an orgasm
• Orgasm without squirting
• Experience both together
• Experience neither and still have an incredibly pleasurable sexual experience

Squirting should never become the measurement of whether sex was “good.”

Pleasure isn't a competition.

Exploring With a Partner

If you are exploring squirting with a partner, communication matters.

Tell them what feels good.

Tell them when something needs to be slower, softer or different.

And don't allow squirting to become something your partner feels they have to “make” you do.

Your body is not a performance challenge.

A supportive partner should be interested in your pleasure — not achieving a particular result.

What About Toys?

Some people enjoy experimenting with curved or G-spot-style vibrators and other toys designed to stimulate the front vaginal wall.

If you use a toy:

• Start gently
• Use plenty of suitable lubricant
• Follow the manufacturer's cleaning instructions
• Stop if you experience pain or numbness
• Choose a body-safe product from a reputable source

You may need to experiment with different shapes and sensations before discovering what works best for your body.

Don't Force It

Trying to force squirting through extremely intense stimulation can cause irritation, tenderness or pain.

Your body does not owe you a particular sexual response.

If you're having fun but you're not squirting, nothing has gone wrong.

Sometimes the most useful thing you can learn from experimenting is simply a new way of experiencing pleasure.

When Should You Speak to a Healthcare Professional?

Sexual exploration should not be painful.

Consider speaking to a healthcare professional if you experience:

• Persistent pelvic pain
• Pain during penetration
• Burning when urinating
• Unexpected bleeding
• Ongoing bladder-control concerns
• Significant discomfort during sexual activity

A pelvic-floor physiotherapist can also be helpful for people who want to understand pelvic-floor tension, relaxation and sexual function better.

The Most Important Lesson

Learning whether you can squirt is really about learning more about your own body.

Take your time.

Stay curious.

Use lubricant.

Relax.

Communicate.

And don't turn pleasure into another thing you have to achieve.

Oh So Naughty Tip 💗

Forget the pressure to “make it happen.”

Create the right environment, explore what feels good and allow your body to decide what comes next.

Because whether there's a splash, a trickle or absolutely nothing at all…

pleasure is still pleasure.